The Truth About...
The Truth About... Being Good In Bed
With a manual in one hand, a script in the other and an invading army of rampant rabbits, gadgets and gizmos lined up on the bedside table, the art of being a sex goddess seems to have got more complicated of late. But is this really what it takes to make yourself truly memorable - for the right reasons? We're thinking perhaps not...
So what's it all about?
Welcome to the parallel universes of sex...
Universe 1: The Public Universe
This is the one we read about and watch on TV. It's a hot media frenzy of confidence-wielding sirens who have imagination, audacity, vocabulary, the right underwear and an unfailing memory for the latest oral techniques guaranteed to blow a lover's mind.
In this crazy, glittering world of potential, smiling magazine couples tell us how intimate know-how has increased their paltry two orgasms a night to a full-bodied five; prostitutes publish their memoirs showing us what men really want and we are told there is absolutely no good reason why we shouldn't be getting the sex life we deserve and, more importantly, giving as good as we get. So why aren't you? No pressure obviously...
Universe 2: The Private Universe
You and your lover. And mostly, it's not like it is in the books, magazines and movies. You don't look like 'those women', you think his ex may have been better at it than you and you're not sure what his prostate is or whether you really want to have anything to do with it anyway. And on top of all that, can you really be 'enough' when you're tired, stressed and couldn't remember how to get into the position of the month if someone had a gun to your head?
Comparing these public and private worlds can be very bad for your sex life. Heap unrealistic or excessive expectations on yourself and, human nature being what it is, you will start doubting your own ability. Unfortunately, the fear of not being good in bed tends to be a self-fulfilling prophesy. Tension, nerves and anxiety are not good aphrodisiacs and quickly turn into barriers between your body and his.
Welcome to the parallel universes of sex...
Universe 1: The Public Universe
This is the one we read about and watch on TV. It's a hot media frenzy of confidence-wielding sirens who have imagination, audacity, vocabulary, the right underwear and an unfailing memory for the latest oral techniques guaranteed to blow a lover's mind.
In this crazy, glittering world of potential, smiling magazine couples tell us how intimate know-how has increased their paltry two orgasms a night to a full-bodied five; prostitutes publish their memoirs showing us what men really want and we are told there is absolutely no good reason why we shouldn't be getting the sex life we deserve and, more importantly, giving as good as we get. So why aren't you? No pressure obviously...
Universe 2: The Private Universe
You and your lover. And mostly, it's not like it is in the books, magazines and movies. You don't look like 'those women', you think his ex may have been better at it than you and you're not sure what his prostate is or whether you really want to have anything to do with it anyway. And on top of all that, can you really be 'enough' when you're tired, stressed and couldn't remember how to get into the position of the month if someone had a gun to your head?
Comparing these public and private worlds can be very bad for your sex life. Heap unrealistic or excessive expectations on yourself and, human nature being what it is, you will start doubting your own ability. Unfortunately, the fear of not being good in bed tends to be a self-fulfilling prophesy. Tension, nerves and anxiety are not good aphrodisiacs and quickly turn into barriers between your body and his.
