Begin the journey
In the rush for genital stimulation and orgasm, it’s very easy to neglect the more sensual pleasures of the body. Neglecting this means denying yourself the chance of real intimacy and pleasure.

A great way to begin exploring yourself is to have a long, warm and relaxing bath with your favourite bath oil and to try to notice how the water feels on different areas of your body. When you get out of the bath, focus on the feel of a warm towel as you dry yourself. Now you’re warm and relaxed, take some body lotion and apply it to yourself. Try different types of strokes and pressure and note the things your body prefers.

Look and feel
There’s no right or wrong way to masturbate – maybe you’d rather not do it all. And yet you are the best teacher of your partner if you want them to touch you in ways you like best. So if you do want find what works for you, choose a time when you can be alone and relaxed and try lots of different ways of touching yourself. Try strokes, caresses, nips, pinches and gentle scratches and notice what makes you feel good. You could also try using different sensations such as covering your hands in oil or cream, or stroking yourself with a feather, a silk scarf or some fur (preferably fake, people!). Be gentle, use lots of variation and most importantly of all, learn what you like best.

Don’t be selfish
Now for the fun bit – time to start sharing your latest discoveries with your partner! It’s all down to you how you do this. Of course, there are options open to you - you could literally show them where and how to touch you. Or, if you’re feeling somewhat racier, let them watch you as you pleasure yourself in front of them while they pleasure themselves too. Not only can this be extremely arousing, but you learn quickly what pleases each other. In the end, a little concentration on yourself can only benefit, and maybe even spice up, your sex life – so don’t be scared to try it!