O.K., I'm not brilliant at writing in paragraphs and telling stories but I will try. I have a really difficult dilemma and not sure what to do. Basically I met a girl, or woman I should say. She is 26 and I am 21. We met in August and I fell in love with her. She feels the same. She is from South Korea. At first I was suspicious, you know you hear the stories about women wanting visas, but as I got to know her I am 100% sure she is genuine and really cares for me. Unfortunately, her visa was up at the end of September, so she had to go back to South Korea. We only knew each other for two months but we are both certain we are in love.

She planned to come back here for another 6 months on a visiting visa, she booked the flight and came over last week. But she was rejected at the airport and had to fly back the next day. I didn't even get to see her. We were both so upset, and realised we loved each other more than we thought. Now she has to stay in Korea for at least the next year or so before trying to come back here again. I have planned a visit to South Korea for December. I know it will be hard to keep the relationship going when we are in two different countries. The problem I have is whether I should go and live there for a year, before hopefully coming back here with her.

I am studying at college and my mum doesn't want me to disturb my studies, so she would be against me going there. I will finish my course in July next year, but I cannot wait that long to be with her. My mind is telling me to just go for it. But I'm really not 100% sure. I think to myself that I am only 21, I can retake my course next year, so just go for it. And I know I would be happy with her.

Can anyone give me some advice please. Thanks so much.