Hi

Im in a very dark place at the moment!! I have a 3 and a half year old boy who happens to be extremely well mannered and very loving. (thats not the dark bit). With me only, he has really bad tantrums which resolve me to tears and make me mad. He sees me upset which is normally the only thing left that will turn him back to the lovely little boy that he is instead of a 'boy possessed'. He has a very fulfilling life and his diet is nothing but healthy and balanced - he even eats pilchards and all bran!!!!

If anyone could give me some hope I would be very grateful as I am at my wits end. I have tried star charts, ignorning the bad rewarding the good and doing time out. He is a very angry little boy when he doesn't get his way. Normally he is very quiet (maybe too quiet) until he feels comfortable with his surroundings. He has recently moved to a new pre school but has settled in very well. We will be moving house soon and i shudder to think if this is going to add to his nightmare behaviour. Help!!!!

Dear ! I normally do not answer easy. But I could not resist this one. You need to ask forgivness on your boys fathers behalf for what happend. Let the fahter of your little boy know where he is now and how much he is still loved. His energy is around his son and must be calmed. You can offer a small condition ( could be a cold shower, a day fasting, a prayer lasting 4 minutes, anything you can thing of). its not a matter of what but a matter of why you want to help your boy. FIRST YOU NEED TO HELP HIS FATHER........